Trying to figure it all out...
I'm reading a book entitled "Tricky Part," an autobiography by a guy who was molested by a camp counselor for three years while in his early adolescence.
How can anyone expect someone to grow up with a well-adjusted and hopefully sense of self when they are so abused. Considering an even wider berth, how can society expect those who struggle with their sexual orientation to grow-up with a well-adjusted sense of self and act without any dysfunction when they hear all their lives that they are sick, sinful, evil, dysfunctional, intrinsically disordered, unable to form long-lasting relationships, obsessed with sex, unable to be emotionally well-balanced, etc.? They cannot. It takes a yeoman’s efforts to overcome all the crap that is internalized. No wonder there is so much dysfunction among so many gay people.
For myself, having to wait until my early thirties to test the waters and consider the possibility of a relationship. For me, now, still trying to figure out this relationship thing - what "normal" guys learn in their teens and early twenties. I'm too old for this, I think. I should know how to navigate through all this stuff, I think. I should not be so confused and conflicted, I think. Oh well - this is the reality within which I live.
The answer is not trying to convince them that their homosexuality is the cause of all their problems, and that if they accept Jesus He will change them into heterosexuals and all the problems will be solved. It just doesn't work that way. How do I know? From personal experience and the testimony of those who have gone through the programs and the struggles.
The answer begins by presenting a positive and healthful alternative to the prevailing sub-culture.
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How can anyone expect someone to grow up with a well-adjusted and hopefully sense of self when they are so abused. Considering an even wider berth, how can society expect those who struggle with their sexual orientation to grow-up with a well-adjusted sense of self and act without any dysfunction when they hear all their lives that they are sick, sinful, evil, dysfunctional, intrinsically disordered, unable to form long-lasting relationships, obsessed with sex, unable to be emotionally well-balanced, etc.? They cannot. It takes a yeoman’s efforts to overcome all the crap that is internalized. No wonder there is so much dysfunction among so many gay people.
For myself, having to wait until my early thirties to test the waters and consider the possibility of a relationship. For me, now, still trying to figure out this relationship thing - what "normal" guys learn in their teens and early twenties. I'm too old for this, I think. I should know how to navigate through all this stuff, I think. I should not be so confused and conflicted, I think. Oh well - this is the reality within which I live.
The answer is not trying to convince them that their homosexuality is the cause of all their problems, and that if they accept Jesus He will change them into heterosexuals and all the problems will be solved. It just doesn't work that way. How do I know? From personal experience and the testimony of those who have gone through the programs and the struggles.
The answer begins by presenting a positive and healthful alternative to the prevailing sub-culture.
comments? e-mail me
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